Why it’s not okay to always use “positive thinking”

Dec 9, 2014 | Feelings, Self-Love, Spiritual Rant

I’m all for gratitude.

I love “everything happens for a reason” and finding the lesson in a difficult situation. I believe there is wisdom in looking at ourselves and our stories. It is noble to take radical responsibility.

But what about our emotions? What about the legitimacy of the feelings that arise when your in the middle of the “shit storm”?

As a spiritual aspirant – I’m guilty.

I’m guilty of getting caught up in the positive thinking and manifesting madness that has us monitoring every negative thought, feeling and emotion.

But the spiritual concepts like “happiness is a choice” and “your thoughts create your reality” can be confusing and tormenting if misunderstood. And, quite frankly – I witness a lot of misunderstanding.

I was a chronic positive-think-my-way-into-a-different-perspective kind of girl. I had experienced a little bit of trauma: my parents went through a divorce, a close family member was murdered, my step-mom committed suicide, I got diagnosed with a rare brain tumor, then I nearly died, and spent 10 days barely holding on to life in the hospital, and, oh-by-the-way an abusive relationship, just for fun, all before the age of 35.

Yet, I remained positive. I had been shifting and observing my thoughts for years through personal development and mindfulness. I could silver line a nuclear Holocaust.

But there was a cost: I was severely disconnected from my intuition, my inner knowing, and I didn’t trust myself.

And isn’t that kind of the point of spiritual practice? Of working on ourselves? To be deeply rooted in who we are, to trust our intuition, so we can then have abundant spiritual and human experiences?

If you are here, you probably don’t need to disassociate from your emotions and feelings anymore. Most of us get onto this path because we are energetically sensitive, empathetic, and emotional people.

When we focus on our stories and limiting beliefs without acknowledging the core messages that lie underneath the emotions and thoughts, it is just another way the ego disassociates – kind of like an addict going for alcohol to avoid the discomfort of living.

As a result of never allowing our deepest feelings and beliefs to come to the surface, we separate ourselves further from our sensitivities, from our intuition, and from feeling connected from within. We actually exacerbate the very situation we are trying to fix: our relationship with our Truth and ourselves.

If we aren’t a sacred place to be fully human, messiness and all — then who and what are we looking to for that wholeness, for our power?

When I realized this was just a way to give the ego more power (directing the mind at the expense of feeling my core feelings), and that I was actually acting out of fear, because I hated myself for being vulnerable, I knew it was time to develop a new relationship with my feelings and emotions.

Yes, it’s important to not buy into the place called “crazy-town” in our minds. Yes, it is important to redirect our reactive emotions. Yes, it is important to take personal responsibility. Yes, it is important to not project all of our wounds and soft spots onto someone else, blaming them for what we are feeling in the moment, but . . .

The beauty of being a soul having a human experience, is in finding the courage to acknowledge our tender, wounded, broken, and messy without shame, with total acceptance, with some reverence, and with humility, so we can heal the original source wound of separation from love; so we can cultivate a deep level of intimacy, trust, and truth with ourselves and with others.

The beauty of our emotions is that they are the doorway into deeper, unheard, wounds, and beliefs. They are the bridge and the channel for unconditional love with ourselves, for honest communication with others, and for being fully present in the here and now.

Through honoring the language of our emotions, of our feelings, and of our experiences, we heal years of denied, repressed, stored, grief material that create the filters we navigate our life from.

Connecting to our feelings is the difference between a “good” spiritual practice and an actual spiritual experience.

When we learn how to feel, heal, integrate, and become whole, we get laughter through tears, joy in the middle of breakdowns, peace in the face of chaos, and trust in the face of the unknown.

Through experiencing all we were meant to experience here, we get glorious #Wholehuman™ living.

Light and Love
Megyn

YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO FEEL AS MUCH JOY, TRUST, AND LOVE AS IS HUMANLY POSSIBLE, NOW!

My mission is to bridge the gap that exists between high-level-woo-woo-spiritulity, self-love and your everyday life. Stick around, kick up your heels, read for a while. I am sure we'll be fast friends.

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