How to stop choosing relationships from your wounds!
When in relationship to life and as a result other human beings, your soul pulls you toward the maximum growth potential for expansion, and love, and union — this is why romantic relationships are such catalysts for change, and so intoxicating.
But until we’ve cultivated an intimate, integrated, relationship from within, we will (mostly unconsciously) chase, pine for, and hold on too tightly, to people and circumstances that show us where our self-love gaps are; we will be drawn to mirrors of the potential we’ve yet to discover within.
In order to choose people from our wholeness as opposed to our wounds; in order to unconditionally love and see people clearly, without the obstruction of projections, fantasies, and expectations, we must deeply meet and see ourselves.
Seeing ourselves is much more than working on mindset, or awareness of our “stories”, or “mastering our thoughts”, it’s an open, honest, compassionate channel with our vulnerabilities; with our deepest, disowned, wounds and soft spots, while practicing radical compassion, acceptance, and responsibility.
This means acknowledging the feelings and beliefs that hide underneath the thoughts and the emotions that come from old conditioning. It means not making ourselves “wrong”, or “shifting perspective”, or calling our experiences “not true” or “not real,” but an ability to sit with the discomfort of our raw, human, messiness while demonstrating a tenderness perhaps we’ve never experienced before.
This is not to say that choosing from our wounds is “bad” or “wrong”, but we will perpetually be dancing on the edge of communion with our soul. The purity of our spirit: love, peace, ease, trust, and expansion will always be just out of reach.
Where as choosing from wholeness doesn’t imply there is no effort involved, or that we won’t feel hopeful, or get disappointed, or have our hearts broken, but the need to cling, chase, or grasp onto what has run its course, or was never a match in the first place falls away as we’ve become more deeply rooted from within.
Choose from wholeness!
All love. All truth