How to let go of that thing you need to let go of
I’ve let go of a lot in my life.
I’ve let go of toxic relationships, of businesses, of homes, of opportunities that weren’t in alignment. Of TV. Of whole food groups. Of repressed emotions. Oh-my-gah! Repressed emotions.
I’m still learning to let go of the need to control my health and my body. I’m still learning To. Just. Let. Go.
Breathe. It does gets easier. Especially when we understand what we are avoiding.
Letting go can be uncomfortable AND heart breaking.
Moving into the unknown puts us face to face with our deepest fears and sometimes suppressed emotions. That’s why we don’t like it. It brings up stuff!
We are conditioned and wired to seek comfort, love, safety and security through attachments to things, people, and predictable outcomes. Unfortunately, it’s an illusion that any kind of comfort, love, and security reside somewhere outside of us.
Life changes quickly, whether we want it to or not. Sometimes change starts imperceptibly, sometimes with the fires of life that burn everything to the ground so you have to start anew.
It is totally acceptable and life affirming to seek out our soul’s resonance in uplifting, expansive, and creative situations. But it’s soul sucking and life-force leaching to be at war with yourself, or to deny deeper layers of your own light-filled-truth.
If holding onto a job, addiction, habit, distraction, ideology, guru, or person is draining, keeping you small, or holding you back, the Universe has a built in megaphone nudging you with little omens, wake-up calls, and divinely timed storms to get your attention.
The question is, are you awake enough to listen?
Chaos, turmoil, and discord don’t show up as punishment, but to gift us with the opportunity to choose more Truth, more heart, more love, more aligned actions and circumstances.
If you feel paralyzed, held hostage, or emotionally triggered when confronted with letting go of that thing you don’t want to let go of – please, the last thing you need to do is judge, berate, or shame yourself for wanting to hold on.
Instead, acknowledge the underlying truth you are scared of facing: “I’m afraid I’ll always be alone”, “I’m afraid I’ll never be successful”, “I’m afraid I’m not supported”, “I’m afraid I’ll be a failure”, “I’m afraid of feeling lost and sad for forever.”
Underneath the discomfort when you finally show up for yourself and speak up for ALL your truths out loud, there is healing, release, and renewal, and as a result a stronger sense of connection with your heart and soul.
Letting go is how we grow.
Letting go creates spaciousness that brings more answers and holds new connections the mind can’t conceive. If forces us to meet ourselves; to sift through the murky terrain of our being, and prepares us for gifts to come.
The harder we cling, the more we are in a state of internal fear and lack, the more inwardly we should explore.
Make the practice of letting go a game. Delight in the curiosity of soul-excavation.
Peeling back layers of more heart-aligned truths is never totally comfortable, in fact it sometimes hurts to face ourselves and release emotional baggage, or grieve old ways that don’t work for us anymore.
But if you can LET GO while you simultaneously HOLD A SPACE for yourself, lovingly and compassionately feeling your heart breaking as you release the comfort zones, the habits, the routines, the relationships, the addictions, and the things that you KNOW don’t really serve you anymore – the cracks you open up, are how the light gets in.
The heart opens up, comes alive, beats harder, gets stronger, and says: “Thank you for being on my side!”
Our minds seek to separate us from the Truth, our heart asks us to remember the Truth, our soul says, “Whenever you are ready, I AM the Truth.”
Light and Love