THERE SHOULD BE MORE SELF, AND LESS HELP IN SELF-HELP!Kick up your heels and read for a while as I deconstruct high-level-woo-woo-spiritulity, and self-love. You know, so you can actually apply this stuff to your real life and relationships.
I’ve let go of a lot in my life. I’ve let go of toxic relationships, of businesses, of homes, of opportunities that weren’t in alignment. Of TV. Of whole food groups. Of repressed emotions. Oh-my-gah! Repressed emotions. I’m still learning to let go of the need...read more
Do you have the same definitions of kindness and respect? (The life changing advice I’d never thought of)
One of the simplest and most profound pieces of advice ever given to me was from a Buddhist friend twenty years older and wiser than me. He said, “Megyn if you don't have the same definitions of kindness and respect, the relationships you have will never work."...read more
For 17 years I was a good spiritual student and self-help junkie. I was well versed in concepts like self-love and self-worth. Concepts like "our thoughts create our reality" and "happiness is a choice" permeated much of my thinking. I had accepted everyone for where...read more
Remember that wonderful human being I met a few months ago? We parted ways, and for the first time in my adult life, I experienced a happy ending through an ending. Not like pop-the-cork-off-the-champagne-bottle happy. There was disappointment and other normal human...read more
Once upon a time...I found myself dating a magnificent human being. After being in a self-imposed, much needed, healing dating desert, it would have been easy to make this easy, deep, soulful connection fit into "the one" box. But I knew that this would taint the...read more
Many of us have gotten expectations and standards confused! We hear expectations bad, unconditional love good –– then get into weird, contorted relationships with people who can’t really meet us with the kind of healthy, reciprocal, dignity, respect and love we...read more
There is a fork in the road. You are presented with a choice. Life delivers yet another opportunity. You know it's time to decide. . . Should you say yes? Email back? Forge ahead? Remain open? Repair? Mend or re-commit? We all want easy, regret free decisions...read more
There are no guarantees and no predictable outcomes. Even when we think we’ve got the tools, know the stats, have put in our time, done our research – it’s still just a winding road into the uncertain, mysterious terrain of “life is a journey.”read more
In spite of all our meditating, deep breathing and positive thinking, sometimes our best efforts to come back to center and "feel better" just don't work. Sometimes the chaos, the stress, or the a@%hole on the freeway really do steal our serenity. We've all been...read more
Trust yourself. Trust yourself. Just. Trust. Your. Self. As seekers and journeyers on "the path" to purposeful living, self-trust is THE most important tool in our personal empowerment toolbox. Yet it remains the most difficult principle to put into practice....read more
When we aren’t fully resourced containers for our own love, adoration and respect; when we haven’t faced and re-wired the old emotional programs that are below the surface dictating our lives, we will attract relationships that will be like picking at a scab – constantly re-opening old hurts and pains, never quite allowing it to heal.read more
Ultimately, happiness is a consequence of living as a responsible Wholehuman; it’s more of an undercurrent of peace, joy and trust.
And some days, it’s totally appropriate, dare I say it – to not choose happy.read more
Perhaps, what we most often miss are the signals that it's time to move on, shift, re-focus, and let go. We get so caught up in the determination, the not being a "failure," the "looking good", the fear of "is this is the last one that will ever love me", that we...read more
When we focus on our stories and thoughts without acknowledging the messages that lie behind the emotions, it is just another way the ego disassociates – kind of like an addict going for alcohol to avoid the discomfort of living.read more
I’m a recovering self-abandonment-oholic. It is only because of deep healing, massive amounts of self-compassion and self-love, that I can now say this with a smile on my face. When I realized that a great deal of my pain and frustration in relationships was...read more
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